The Buddy System | How it Can Help You Achieve Your Goals

The Buddy System, it’s not just a term for kids and their safety. The Buddy System can be used in many ways. This post is about using it to achieve goals. Some even refer to them as “goal buddies”.

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The Buddy System

According to Wikipedia, “The buddy system is a procedure in which two individuals, the “buddies”, operate together as a single unit so that they are able to monitor and help each other. As per Merriam-Webster, the first known use of the phrase “buddy system” goes as far back as 1942. Webster goes on to define the buddy system as “an arrangement in which two individuals are paired (as for mutual safety in a hazardous situation).” The buddy system is basically working together in pairs in a large group or alone. Both individuals have to do the job. The job could be to ensure that the work is finished safely or the skill/learning is transferred effectively from one individual to the other.”1

The Buddy System has been used in the work place, in school, and in the military. You can also use it socially and in diet and exercise goals.

You’re “buddy” can be a co-worker, a best friend, someone you met at the gym, or your spouse. You can have different buddies for different activities.

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Benefits of The Buddy System

  • Promotes closer bonds
  • Instills confidence
  • Offers Encouragement and Support
  • Creates Learning from Each Other
  • Promotes an inclusive environment for new students/employees
  • Increases self-esteem and peer acceptance

In the workplace, a buddy system can help a new employee to have someone to talk to and ease them into their new environment. The “buddy” becomes their go-to person that can quickly get the new employee up to speed on the company and their job duties.

The buddy system in the workplace can also become a valuable knowledge share. The new employee can also offer knowledge and ideas from their previous work history, which can become helpful.

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Other Ways The Buddy System Helps

There are many ways the buddy system can be helpful, other than just in the workplace.

In many areas of life, people find support in numbers, such as health issues. An article by Psychology Today said; “Social support, having close connections that one can call upon as needed, is linked to well-being: Those with more support have better health.”

The article went on to say; “Social support means having friends or family who are available to help by being available to listen, have fun, or drive to an appointment. Having strong support may buffer stress and can improve health long-term.”2

People are naturally drawn to others like themselves. This helps create healthy friendships.

When using a buddy system for diet and exercise it can create a little friendly competition as well as encouragement and support.

How it Helps to Achieve Goals

1. Support The buddies offer support for each other to achieve the goal.

2. Encouragement- The buddies encourage each other whenever they feel like quitting or giving up. They urge each other to keep going!! They become each other’s biggest fan and cheerleader!

3. Brainstorming- Buddies ‘brainstorm’ together to come up with new ideas and strategies. If one way isn’t working then they work together to come up with new ideas. Two brains are better than one!

4. Talk it Out!- Goal Buddies talk things out! The good and the bad! Your buddy becomes your ‘go-to’ person. The person you call, text, and share your ups and downs with. You talk about your problems with and find solutions with them. Talking things out helps you stay on track to success.

My Personal Goal Buddy

My personal goal buddy is my oldest daughter. No matter what kind of goal M or I decide to tackle, the other one is ready and willing!

She and I both have an “all or nothing” type personality along with a “do or die” attitude. Once we put our mind to something we don’t give up, at least not easily. We may adjust the strategy, but we stay completely focused on the end goal. As long as we are in it together we don’t let each other quit.

Some of our ideas may not seem ‘doable’ to most people. But that just seems to make us more determined. When M suggests something it never occurs to me that I could tell her ‘no’. I simply say; “ok, let’s do it”.

Once, when she suggested a liquid diet to lose weight before my other daughter’s wedding and I said ok. M laughed and said; “I didn’t think you’d agree” lol but I did, so we did a liquid diet for 3 months.

We lost our goal weight and looked amazing at the wedding! 🙂

Now we are on a modified Mediterranean and Diabetic Diet for health reasons, not just to lose weight.

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Now It’s Your Turn!

Have you incorporated the buddy system in your life? If so, in what areas of your life do you use it? How does it work for you?

Leave me a comment and tell me about your buddy and how they help you with your goals. I love hearing from my readers!

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  1. I think it’s important to have a buddy system if you’re a blogger like me. I work from home so there is so much distraction to deal with. Being part of a buddy system does enforce accountability but it also gives the necessary support and encouragement.

    1. Sharon_Green says:

      I totally agree! My buddy also keeps me focused when I’m getting frustrated. She’s also quick to “mentally slap me out of it” when I’m having a pity party or ready to give up on something. lol She knows me so well. Support systems are vital to our goals, our success, and our well-being. 🙂

  2. Nilakshi says:

    I totally agree with you Sharon! My husband is my buddy, we brainstorm everything together and discuss and finalize every plan. Its great for accountability and my blogging is getting stronger ever since we started doing that. Thank you for sharing.

    1. Sharon_Green says:

      Thank you for reading and for your comment! We all need a great support system!

  3. Nicole says:

    What a great piece! The buddy system is what I use when I take my 4 kids to an outdoor event with a lot of people! It’s so helpful! I learned it from my sons school. Very helpful!

    1. Sharon_Green says:

      Nicole, thank you for reading! The buddy system can be used in so many ways throughout life. It’s always helpful! 🙂

  4. Nicole says:

    Great points, my friends and I do vision boards together to hold us accontable.

    1. Sharon_Green says:

      Nicole, thank you for reading! Vision boards together are great ways to motivate and keep each other accountable!

  5. Patricia P. says:

    I absolutely adore this post. Thank you for sharing. If there is one thing my cancer diagnosis has taught me… the only thing important in life is the people surrounding you. It was the topic at a speech I gave recently. Buddies are key! As for me, I use a buddy system for running and exercise. They keep me motivated. Get me out when I don’t really want to run. And they help me through difficult times… pain and emotions. Without my run buddies, I couldn’t have run my first marathon last year. I also belong to several cancer support groups. Connecting with other survivors has helped me in so many ways. Some have become close friends. Buddies are necessary!

    1. Sharon_Green says:

      Patricia, thank you so much for reading and for your comment! I’m so glad that you have your buddy system in place! A support system of people who care and encourage us is vital, especially during our difficult times. Well wishes to you! 🙂

  6. Melissa says:

    Great tips! All are so very true!!

    1. Sharon_Green says:

      Melissa, thank you for reading and commenting! 🙂

  7. Jimmy says:

    It actually works and I like the buddy system

    1. Sharon_Green says:

      Jimmy, thank you for reading and commenting! The buddy system is vital to me! 🙂

  8. Lisa Alioto says:

    I totally agree with all you said. For me, it’s the accountability it creates – and I also love the brainstorming!

    1. Sharon_Green says:

      Thanks for reading, Lisa! Accountability is a big asset to the buddy system! We love brainstorming also!

  9. April Key says:

    Thanks for sharing Sharon it is really important to have a buddy system in our life that understands us. My daughter and son is my buddy system. I honestly like our relationship more. I can express and we have similar minds and so the same to you and your daughter too. I hope everyone can find a buddy that they can lean on as it is important to have one to make it in life.

    1. Sharon_Green says:

      April, I’m so glad you have a buddy system too! It does make life easier, especially in difficult times. 🙂 Thank you for reading my post!

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