No New Year’s Resolutions in 2020 for this ole gal!! Nope! No way, not this year!! I’ll be trying something different!
New Year’s is honestly my favorite holiday! That is if you consider it on the actual holiday list. It’s the symbol of a new start! Leaving old habits and all the bad things you’ve done or endured of the past year. It’s like starting with a clean slate!
Every year I have a list of New Year’s Resolutions written down ready to start my plan for a better year! I normally have broken, given up or forgotten each thing on that list before the end of January.
This year I’m trying a different approach. No New Year’s Resolutions in 2020! In this post, I will lay out my plan for starting off and staying on track to a better year!
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New Year’s Resolutions
Exactly what is a resolution? And why do people even make resolutions?
New Year’s resolution (noun) a promise that you make to yourself to start doing something good or stop doing something bad on the first day of the year:https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/new-year-s-resolution
According to the dictionary, a New Year’s Resolution is a promise to yourself! We make resolutions simply because we want to do better for ourselves. We want to improve our lives.
The first day of the new year is the perfect time to start our new goals. We set off on our plans to improve as we start a new year with a clean slate!
Common types of resolutions
Let’s look at some of the most common types of resolutions that people make each year.
- Lose weight
- Improve finances
- Eat healthier
- Stop Smoking
- Manage stress better
- Improve a relationship
- Get a better job
- Make more time for yourself (self-care)
- Stop procrastinating
That’s a list of 10 most common resolutions people make each year. Many may have a few more specific goals on their lists, but at least one or two of the above items will appear on the majority of people’s lists.
Why do people make these resolutions?
The reasoning for these common resolutions is simple. People want to do better each year than they did in the previous year. We naturally always strive to do better.
Improving our lives, of course, means that we must stop doing things that are bad for us. We then have to replace those bad habits with good habits.
Easier said than done! Every plan can look great on paper, but putting that plan into action is the hard part.
No New Year’s Resolutions in 2020!
There will be NO New Year’s Resolutions in 2020 for me. Every year I am excited about New Year’s Eve. By the middle of December each year I’m so done with the year!
2019 hasn’t been any different than all the years past. It’s been a long year! Finances haven’t been as great as I’d hoped, but do we ever have or make “more than enough” money?
We’ve had our fair share of illness in the family. At times, especially this month it’s felt like we’ve had more than our fair share. Stress has been high this year. I’m so over 2019! I’m ready for that fresh start!
Resolutions are difficult to accomplish
Why am I refusing to not make resolutions in 2020? Because every year I get excited about starting fresh and making my resolutions.
Hyped up and ready to tackle the New Year, I am determined that THIS is going to be THE year to make a difference and change my habits. Only to feel defeated within a month of starting my goals and the new year.
I’m an “all or nothing” kind of girl. I’m gung-ho or total zero. So whenever I start a new plan, diet, or budget if I slip or mess up even once, then I’m done. I can’t seem to get back on track. At least not until I get back to where I feel is a new starting place… another clean slate.
A Different Plan for 2020
I’ve decided I need a new strategic plan! Maybe it’s more of a mind game with myself, who knows? But it’s obvious that making New Year’s Resolutions has not worked out for me in the past.
If you focus on the dictionary’s definition of a New Year’s Resolution, then you could say I’m still basically making resolutions this year.
However, for whatever reasons I have a new plan. Even if it is only to psych myself out and convince myself I can’t fail by breaking my resolutions this year.
When I break or give up on my resolutions only a month into each new year it is very disappointing. I always feel like such a failure. I don’t want to feel that way this year.
The No New Year’s Resolutions in 2020 Plan
This year I’m basically going to do three main things with smaller, easier tasks under each main category. The three main categories are:
- Things I’ll leave behind in 2019
- Things I want for myself in 2020
- Promises I am making to myself for 2020
These 3 main categories will help me to focus on areas to improve my overall life. Then I can make smaller goals in each category that are easier to attain. I can also add or adjust the smaller goals throughout the year and still be improving in the 3 main categories without failing at my plan.
My Personal 2020 New Year’s Goals
Now I’d like to share with you how my personal 2020 Goal Instead of Resolution plan is shaping up so far.
1. Things I’ll Leave Behind in 2019
- Overthinking- I will stop overthinking every little thing and situation. Concentrate more on the “It is what it is” attitude.
- Stress- I want to leave all stress behind, but I know I can’t leave ALL of it behind so I’ll concentrate on reducing stress as much as possible each day.
- Past mistakes- The past is the past and I cannot go back and change it. In 2020 I will work harder at leaving those things in the past and not dwell on them.
- Negativity- I will leave all negativity in 2019. Negative thoughts, words, actions, and people need to stay in 2019. There is no longer a place in my life for negative things. I’m 58 years old now, realistically I do not believe I’ll live to be 116. Obviously my life is physically more than half over. I want to live as happily and peacefully as possible, so all negativity needs to stay behind me!
2. Things I want for myself in 2020
- A closer personal daily walk with God. Which to me means being more consistent with reading my Bible daily. I slack in this area right now more often than I should. I also plan on attending church on a more regular basis.
- More time spent making memories with each of my grandchildren. These three little people are the lights of my life and they are growing up so incredibly fast. Each day is a day we cannot get back or relive. There is no pause or rewind button on life. I want to create more chances to make lasting moments that each of them will remember for a lifetime. Not only memories of them with me, but I want to create memories of them with me and them together. Cousins are very important!
- A more fulfilling social life. I have allowed myself to become somewhat secluded this past year. Not intentionally, but due mainly to health issues I haven’t spent as much time with my dearest friends, so I plan on changing that!
- Become more physically active. Again due to health issues I have become a bit sedentary. I have always enjoyed dancing, swimming, and riding horses. I plan on adding those things back to my life as my health permits.
- I also want to improve my blogging and creative writing skills!
- Travel and weekend getaways. My granddaughter and I have discovered that we love trips together! Luckily my daughter and son-in-law enjoy taking us on those trips. So we are planning more of those!
3. Promises I am making to myself for 2020
- I will no longer beg anyone to be in my life or spend time with me. Even family or those closest to me. No matter how much I love them or need them in my life, it’s time that I stop begging them to spend time with me. If they don’t value our relationship or care enough about me to visit me then begging them to do so only hurts me more in the long run. It’s time for me to accept that and let it go.
- I will stop repeatedly apologizing or trying to make up for past mistakes. If I have done something wrong or hurt someone in the past and I’ve already apologized, then I’m done. I can’t go back and change what happened. They either accept the apology or they don’t. I’ve done what I can and now they either forgive me or they don’t. But I won’t allow them to keep holding it against me or dredging up the past hurt. Time to move on.
- I will stand up and speak out for myself in relationships. I will no longer try to hide my feelings only to placate or soothe someone else’s feelings. I don’t mean that I will intentionally hurt the other person. But I’m no longer going to hide my hurt and cry in private as if my feelings don’t matter as long as the other person gets to be happy while hurting me.
- I will not defend myself or make excuses for who I am. I have as much right to my opinions, my feelings, and attitudes as anyone else does. I am who I am. I should not and will not try to change that for anyone.
- I also promise to live in the moment! Carpe Diem! Take more pictures! and practice gratitude daily!
In conclusion, I’d just like to say that no matter if you call them resolutions or promises to yourself, we should all try to go into the new year with a plan to improve ourselves.
In fact we should great each new day with the intent to do things a little better than the day before. We start each morning with a clean slate to try again at improving ourselves and our lives.
What are your plans for 2020?
So what are your plans for 2020? Yes or No to New Year’s resolutions this year? What areas do you want to improve in your life?
This is not just a new year, but a new decade! A lot can change in a decade! Think about what has changed in your life since 2010. Then decide how you want to begin this new decade.
Now it’s your turn!
Leave me a comment and tell me if you make New Year’s Resolutions or not. If so what are some of the resolutions on your list this year?